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A Piece about Choice

A glimpse into the book

Vanessa Rose Lima
Apr 23, 2023
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Before I got knocked up, the narrative that ran through my head was "If you want to be a mother you'll know from the time you yourself are born." I blame this on the way society depicts motherhood in the media, what we've been taught, and tbh, a lot of personal relationships and experience.⁠

I was a Barbie queen but I didn't play with dolls, I NEVER babysat, and send blessings when it's time to change a diaper, so one of my main fears and thoughts before our bean manifested was "What if I'm not fit to be a mother?" or "What if I actually don't want to be a mother?"⁠⁠

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I’ve always known I wanted a family, but I never felt the instinctual urge to have a baby like some other women do — and because of that I felt like something was wrong with me.

But as I was writing this book and bringing up this conversation, I had so many encouraging conversations with other women, who are now mothers, who have FELT this way too. ⁠

Women who run businesses, women who have changed their minds, women who have allowed themselves to walk their own path.⁠


⁠🌵You can find the full piece in my self-published book, Sympathy for the Strong Ones. PRE-SALE IS OFFICIALLY OPEN. You can order it directly through my website. Every order placed is an order supporting a woman owned business with a baby on the way and puppers who deserve the world. ⁠

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